Thursday, April 2, 2015

Powering up PFLAG voices, state by state: A Letter from PFLAG National ED Jody Huckaby

Dear PFLAG Members and Supporters:

Governor Michael Pence of Indiana signed into law a bill that gives people permission to discriminate against others, citing their religious beliefs. Some people claim that it is “just” a bill about religious freedom, a founding principle of our country, and that it is not intended to be discriminatory. However, the current language of the bill allows people to use a claim of “freedom of religion” as a freedom to discriminate. We are so proud of Indiana PFLAGers who have been relentless, vocal, and organized in letting all other Hoosiers know the real impact of the Indiana law. On CNN, on local news, in social media, and even organizing and leading the charge at rallies, PFLAGers are sending an unequivocal message that PFLAG’s values are America’s values.

Marriott Int'l. CEO Arne Sorenson Accepts Honors On Behalf of the Company
PFLAG members are standing alongside business and industry leaders who are raising their voices--and in some cases, closing their wallets--to send a powerful message that writing discrimination into the law is bad for our country and bad for business. Look no further than Marriott International CEO and President Arne Sorenson calling the law “madness” and “idiocy” while he spoke at PFLAG National's Seventh Annual Straight for EqualityTM Gala this week in New York City for evidence of how strong the response has been.

In Arkansas, a similar law is pending that the Governor today urged the legislature to clarify as not discriminatory, but still could be signed into law, even without that clarification. In that case, leaders at Walmart, including their CEO Doug McMillan, have called the proposed law a threat to “the spirit of inclusion present throughout the state of Arkansas.” Meanwhile, in Texas, Kentucky, Georgia, and Florida, our transgender community is being subjected to bills that criminalize and/or fine their ability to use a restroom.

There have been more than 70 state legislative bills in more than half the states in our country that would harm people who are LGBTQ, and some states have introduced multiple bills; Texas alone has 20. To date, three have become law--in Indiana, Utah, and Arkansas.

PFLAG Indianapolis' RFRA Opposition Billboard
Across the country, PFLAGers’ voices are strong, clear, and heard. Many PFLAGers who identify as people of faith, have expressed shock, anger, and sadness that some of their elected officials would shamefully attempt to make discrimination the law of their state and use religious liberty as the rationale for doing so. PFLAG family and ally voices have always had a critical role to play in moving equality forward. Today is no exception. In fact, PFLAGers are standing up and demanding that this be called out for what it is--discrimination is wrong, no matter how it gets packaged. To pair it with religious liberty is an insult to those of us whose family, culture, and traditions are steeply rooted in faith tradition.

Our family and ally stories mirror how people’s lives are affected by potentially harmful actions, and not just those who are LGBTQ. PFLAG voices represent a large number of people--parents, family members, and allies--who might not otherwise be visible and whose opinions may not be represented anywhere else. PFLAG voices are the voices of our neighbors, our coworkers, the people with whom we gather in our faith communities. PFLAG voices are the voices of local communities across each state and throughout the country. PFLAG voices truly are America’s voices.

PFLAG will not accept actions by any level of government in our country that enshrines into law the permission for people to legally discriminate against our children and grandchildren, our loved ones, ourselves. We will continue to raise our collective family and ally voices against discrimination.

Tell your elected officials, your neighbors, your colleagues--anyone you think will have influence to stop this onslaught of discriminatory bills--that PFLAG’s values are America’s values, and we won't let up until each and every one of these bills ends up on the legislative trash heap where they belong.

Yours in PFLAG solidarity,
Jody M. Huckaby, Executive Director
PFLAG National

P.S. A conference committee of the Indiana state legislature, moments ago, began debate on a proposed amendment to Indiana's law to clarify that it prohibits service providers from using the law to deny services, goods, facilities, or accomodations, and bars discrimination based on stated protected classes, including sexual orientation, gender identity, and others.

However, there is no guarantee that it will pass through a conference committee, and both the Indiana State House and Senate...and it does not erase the more than 70 other similar state legislative bills still in play.

We must keep the pressure on!

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Stunned in Selma on Saturday

From PFLAG National Policy Director Diego M. Sanchez, APR:
Diego M. Sanchez, APR
On Saturday, March 7th, 2015, I methodically adjusted my tie to center its lip as I made my way down U.S. Route 80 from Montgomery to Selma, Alabama, where Majors Creek shares banks with The Alabama River. I expected to have a range of emotions on this historic occasion commemorating the 50th year since "Bloody Sunday" in 1965, but I could not have anticipated the cornucopia of overflowing reactions that raced through me when I spotted The Edmund Pettus Bridge.  I was captivated by the fact that this bridge is the site where brave people of all ages, of many races, mostly African-American, tried to march peacefully, saw what Congressman John Lewis always calls “a sea of blue,” knelt to pray, and were beaten by Alabama State Troopers.  That bridge and those 600 people were the centerpiece on the table leading Black people to have the right to vote in my lifetime.  Fifty years later, we are now fighting to restore the Voting Rights Act.
My tie was the only thing centered about me, and the entire experience seemed surreal.  While I felt overwhelmed by the expanse of people, I was more taken aback by the range of emotions people’s faces revealed.  Some were somber, others excited.  It was easy to spot who was “on duty” because of their focused gaze and alert posture.  There were families and people of all ages, mostly dressed in what we Southerners call Sunday-go-to-meeting clothes.  Certainly this was a special occasion, and my insides felt like a blender with a reversible blade—spinning counterclockwise with somberness and humility for a moment, then clockwise with patriotism and pride the next.  
John Lewis Leads Marchers across
the Edmund Pettus Bridge,
Selma, Alabama, March 7, 1965.
Copyright by the Birmingham News,
all rights reserved.
Every year, I watch cable programs about Selma, which always include interviews with Congressman John Lewis (GA-5) and others as they recall and retell what happened in 1965.  But being there this Saturday, while many of the original leaders with whom I had the great privilege of working in the ‘80s in Atlanta filled me with awe.  I have been blessed to share projects and time with Ambassador Andrew Young when he was Atlanta’s mayor, and the same is true for many beacons cited by name—John Lewis, Joseph Lowery (absent on Saturday due to illness), Hosea Williams, Ralph Abernathy; we have shared victories together.  And then it struck me: we also shared and pushed through similar struggles and pain.
Selma is a mere 350 miles from my hometown of Augusta, GA, and back in 1965, sentiments toward people who are “not white” were as real and kindred as their Southern roots.  Being back home in the South last weekend reminded me of some regional language distinctions that buttress cultural ones. For example, in the South, the three meals are breakfast, dinner and supper, while elsewhere, they are breakfast, lunch and dinner.  We Southerners say the word “y’all” as singular for “you,” and the plural is “all y’all.”  We love our tomatoes fried and green, our peanuts boiled, and our tea sweet.  Back in 1965—as brave people kept trying to march from Selma to the state capital of Montgomery—our Southern schools were still populated along race lines.  And that brings rise to another language distinction of historical significance. Those days predated school integration.  It’s called “integration” in the South rather than “desegregation” as it’s termed in the North because to de- something, you have to discuss the rest of the word, and that wouldn’t have felt gracious or proper.
I often joke that my parents raised me as if every day was going to be their last on earth.  Nothing ever went unexplained or unexpressed.  Both Mom and Dad watched the news if they were not working, and I joined them in silence.  We discussed news reports after they aired.  For our family, that meant we talked after Walter Cronkite said, "And that's the way it is."
Being in Selma on Saturday crystallized for me so many past and current intersections in my life.  Quoting the late Sen. Edward M. (Ted) Kennedy as he spoke at a tribute for his brother Bobby, “In many ways it seems like only yesterday because the memories are so vivid and so enduring.” Growing up as an Army brat, first at Ft. Gulick in the Panama Canal Zone and later at Ft. Gordon in Augusta, GA, I remember when we came by ship to New York from Panama en route to Georgia.  My dad explained to me the meaning of The Statue of Liberty and Ellis Island, reminding me of how he and his Army buddies as soldiers protect us and keep us safe, and how the Army saved Mom from the concentration camp before I was born.  But when we moved to Georgia, there was no way to shield how white kids treated me, far from the safety of the jungles of Panama.  
There was no rational response to my constant question of, “Why, Dad, why?” “Dad, why can’t we go to the swimming pool over there near our house?”  “Dad, why can’t we eat at THAT restaurant?”  I was a kid smack dab in the middle of human disregard because I had dark skin, because of who I was.  No, I never got beaten on a bridge, but I’d like to believe that’s only because at age eight, I wasn’t yet old enough to carry myself 350 miles.  By the time the festivities ended on Saturday, and before Sunday's service at Brown Chapel A.M.E. Church, I realized that my early life prepared me for what I’d have to endure later as an openly transsexual Latino immigrant.  I also said some prayers of gratitude for the brave 600, those who followed on Turnaround Tuesday and for the thousands more who joined and succeeded on the third attempt, reaching Montgomery from Selma.  
It’s a precious lesson in powerful planning and persistence, and unfortunately, we need to call up that energy and dedication again right now to gain victories we thought we won long ago.  Yes, The Voting Rights Act of 1965 was signed into law by President Lyndon Baines Johnson and reauthorized under two Republican Presidents since. However, on June 25th, 2013, The Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) in a 5-4 vote, struck down Section 4 of the VRA, the part that requires some areas of the country to have federal government or federal court clearance to change their voting laws to ensure that those changes not restrict people’s right to vote by enacting prohibitive voter ID requirements.  The result of removing Section 4 has been some states enacting new laws mirroring practices that would have been shameful in 1965, let alone in 2015.  We must demand that Congress fix this now.  Ironically, on the next day, June 26th, 2013, also in a 5-4 vote, SCOTUS struck down Section 3 of the so-called Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), the part that said a marriage is between one man and one woman.  So while we hope and expect for marriage equality certainty to be fully resolved in June (when SCOTUS rules on the cases it will hear arguments about on April 28th), we have no certainty on how or when The Voting Rights Act will be fully restored.  That’s unacceptable.

Many packed up and went home after Selma this past weekend, including me. But there is work to be done—no matter where we live—to honor the thousands from 50 years ago, as we follow their beacon and promise to step up our hard work ahead to reach full equality and justice for all, including our LGBTQ youth and their families.  We work with strength, conviction, and love so that their children's memories can be gentler than some of ours.  And indeed, together we shall overcome.

Monday, March 9, 2015

Announcing our 2015 Straight for Equality Gala Honorees!

WASHINGTON, DC – What do the worldwide leader in hospitality, the creator of the most honored TV show of 2015, and an Olympic gold medalist New York Ranger have in common? All three are being honored by PFLAG National—the nation's largest organization uniting families, allies, and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ)—at the Seventh Annual Straight for Equality Awards gala.
Marriott International will receive the Straight for Equality in the Workplace award, Jill Soloway, creator of the new Amazon Original Series, TRANSPARENT, will receive the Straight for Equality in Entertainment honors, and New York Rangers goalie Henrik Lundqvist will receive the Straight for Equality in Sports award. The event is being hosted by actor/comedian Alec Mapa.
Straight for EqualityTM—a national outreach and education project created by PFLAG National— invites, educates, and engages the next generation of allies joining together with LGBT people in the effort to achieve equality for all. Straight for Equality awards are presented to individuals who are transforming the way that LGBTQ people are understood and treated, using their talents and platforms in their respective fields to empower others to become engaged and outspoken allies for fairness and inclusion.
In a year that has seen huge strides forward in equality for people who are LGBTQ, Marriott,Ms. Soloway, and Mr. Lundqvist have been at the forefront in their own respective areas of expertise.
As a steadfast partner with PFLAG National, Marriott has been especially prized for its enduring dedication to inclusion, acceptance and welcome for all. The company shows its commitment to LGBTQ equality in countless ways including its recognition as one of the very first hotel leaders to offer same-sex partner benefits beginning in 1999. And last year, they launched their popular and award-winning #LoveTravels campaign, expressing Marriott’s commitment to make every traveler feel comfortable being who they are, everywhere they travel.
“Marriott has been a leader in championing basic fairness for all, including LGBTQ employment nondiscrimination,” said PFLAG National Executive Director Jody Huckaby. “They stood with PFLAGers in opposing Arizona’s hurtful anti-LGBTQ legislation, and are vocal supporters and advocates for marriage equality. We are proud to honor our longtime partners and supporters at Marriott...and in one of their own beautiful properties—the New York Marriott Marquis, where we have held this event since its inception in 2007!”
In 2013, Apoorva Gandhi, Marriott VP for Multicultural Affairs, served as co-chair for the Fifth Annual PFLAG Straight for Equality Gala, sharing his own story of bullying which moved the room of more than 500 people. This year, Marriott International CEO Arne Sorenson will accept the award. Gandhi was thrilled to learn of the honor.
“PFLAG embodies the values that inspire all of us at Marriott,” said Gandhi. “This special award reflects our longstanding dedication to equality, inclusion and respect for all of our guests and associates.”
Few have had as profound an effect on our culture’s attitudes about people who are transgender and gender nonconforming as Entertainment honoree Jill Soloway. From the many LGBTQ characters represented on her current show TRANSPARENT and in her past work on SIX FEET UNDER, to the number of LGBTQ writers, actors, and crew members she employs, Soloway walks her talk as few do, and her stories of the intricacies of family, of sexuality, and of gender, all resonate profoundly. TRANSPARENT was included on nearly every television “Best Of” list for 2014, and garnered major awards for its efforts, including two Golden Globe awards, one for Best Television Series, Comedy or Musical and the other for Best Actor, Comedy or Musical, as well as a Directors Guild of America (DGA)award for Ms. Soloway.
“Jill Soloway created a game-changing show which, through the stories of both people who are trans and their families, demonstrates the challenges we face, and the integral role that supportive allies play in ensuring that everyone is valued, included, and respected,” said Jean-Marie Navetta, Director of Equality & Diversity Partnerships, and leader of PFLAG National’s Straight for EqualityTM project. “Her storytelling is honest, showing that allyship isn’t always neat or easy, but the work we do to get there is very literally, lifechanging.”
“We make TRANSPARENT because we believe that the LGBT community and their families have important stories that can teach us all about the power of love,” said honoree Soloway. “PFLAG is a shining example of love's power to change the world, so it is a profound honor to be recognized in this way.”
On the ice, Henrik Lundqvist—or “King Henrik,” as Rangers fans refer to him—is a formidable opponent. Off the ice, however, he is one of the more outspoken allies in the sports world, strongly supporting the NHL’s partnership with You Can Play (a nonprofit working to combat homophobia in sports), and creating his own anti-bullying “I Won’t Stand For” video for USA Network’s Characters Unite campaign.
“Henrik Lundqvist is a true ally, working to pave the way for an openly gay player in the NHL,” said PFLAG’s Huckaby. “He often speaks about the importance of opening a dialogue in order to make everyone feel more comfortable being who they are, and that is what an ally does: meets people where they are, and facilitates conversation. We’re truly thrilled to be honoring him this year.”
Said Lundqvist, “I am very honored to receive the Straight for Equality in Sports award from PFLAG National, an organization that believes, as I do, in the ideal of equality and inclusion for all. I am happy to support them.”
The Seventh Annual Straight for Equality Awards Gala will be held on Monday, March 30th in New York City at the New York Marriott Marquis Hotel, with a VIP reception sponsored by KPMG, which was honored with the Straight for Equality in the Workplace Award in 2012. For more information visit

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

A joint note of family support from PFLAG National and NQAPIA to Congressman Mike Honda (CA-17)

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: February 18, 2015
Liz Owen | | (202) 467-8180 x214

WASHINGTON, DC – PFLAG National and The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA) have issued the following joint note of support to Congressman Mike Honda (CA-17), who at today’s Courageous Conversation symposium in Los Angeles, CA, shared that he has a beloved transgender granddaughter:
On behalf of the many API and LGBTQ families across this country whose children have often been the victims of bullying because they are different, thank you Congressman Honda.   
Your steadfast leadership for our families, and the issues of equality and anti-bullying, has been a source of support to us for decades. From our families to yours, count on our support for your family.
Your visibility today in speaking of your hopes that your transgender granddaughter can feel safe going to school without fear of being bullied is one we all hope for, just like you, for  all children.
We ask everyone to make the same pledge you made—and we reaffirm today as well: refuse to be a bystander while millions of people are dealing with the effects of bullying on a daily basis.
Founded in 1972 with the simple act of a mother publicly supporting her gay son, PFLAG is the original family and ally organization. Made up of families, friends, and allies united with people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ), PFLAG is committed to advancing equality through its mission of support, education, and advocacy. PFLAG has more than 350 chapters and 200,000 supporters crossing multiple generations of American families in major urban centers, small cities, and rural areas across the United States. To learn more, visit

The National Queer Asian Pacific Islander Alliance (NQAPIA) is a federation of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) Asian American, South Asian, Southeast Asian, and Pacific Islander (AAPI) organizations.  We seek to build the organizational capacity of local LGBT AAPI groups, develop leadership, promote visibility, educate our community, enhance grassroots organizing, expand collaborations, and challenge homophobia and racism. Learn more at

Friday, January 16, 2015

MEDIA STATEMENT: The Law Must Protect All Families Equally

Liz Owen | | (202) 657-4026  

WASHINGTON, DC – PFLAG National—the nation's largest organization uniting families, allies, and people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer (LGBTQ)—released the following statement following today’s announcement that the Supreme Court would take up four cases regarding same-sex marriage bans:

“PFLAG’s values are America’s values and that means recognizing that all marriages deserve equal respect and recognition no matter where they are celebrated. Since the last time the Supreme Court took up marriage equality, PFLAG has shared family stories in courts across the country, including in the Sixth Circuit, which demonstrate the harm done when marriage is denied, not just to the couples, but also to their families. PFLAGers will continue sharing their stories so that the Supreme Court will realize the law needs to protect all of our families equally.”

Founded in 1972 with the simple act of a mother publicly supporting her gay son, PFLAG is the original family and ally organization. Uniting people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) with families, friends, and allies, PFLAG is committed to advancing equality through its mission of support, education, and advocacy. PFLAG has more than 350 chapters and 200,000 supporters crossing multiple generations of American families in major urban centers, small cities, and rural areas in all 50 states. To learn more, visit

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Happy New Year!

So many wonderful things to look back on in 2014...and so many incredible things to look forward to in 2015! 

We are grateful to all of you--our members, supporters, readers-at-large--for supporting the vision of a world of true equality and affirmation for all people, inclusive of their sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression!

Have a safe New Year's Eve as you celebrate (or stay home with friends and loved ones) and we look forward to seeing you in 2015!

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Submit your nominees now!

Ever get caught up in the excitement of awards nominations? Wonder who will be recognized as the best performers in their fields each year? Find yourself asking how nominees earn their status? Well, now is your chance to get in on some of the exciting awards action yourself: help us determine this year’s nominees for the 2015 PFLAG National Awards!
You can now submit YOUR nominations for some of PFLAG’s highest honors, which will be presented at the PFLAG National Convention, which will be held in Nashville, TN October 16-18, 2015.
You have the opportunity to make nominations in three categories:
  • The Starr Award: This award is named in honor of Adele Starr, founder and first president of PFLAG National. The Starr Award is intended to recognize an individual within our membership who has made special personal contributions to PFLAG and its mission.
  • The Flag Bearer Award: The PFLAG Flag Bearer Award is given in acknowledgement of the accomplishments of a PFLAG or a non-PFLAG individual/s, businesses, and organizations that have made lasting contributions to the safety and/or equality of our LGBTQ children, family and friends. A recipient of the Flag Bearer Award can be a member of PFLAG but the work the person or persons are doing is being done outside the framework of the PFLAG organization.
  • The Betty Degeneres Advocate Award: This award is named in honor of Betty Degeneres, mother of celebrity Ellen Degeneres, who has used her public stature to educate diverse groups, primarily outside of the PFLAG chapter network, about the critical role of parent, family and ally affirmation of people who are LGBTQ.
Betty DeGeneres accept the first ever  Betty DeGeneres
Advocate Award at the 2011 PFLAG National Convention
“Take a look around your state and think about who would make a great Starr award nominee. You likely have someone in your membership who is always going above and beyond. Or perhaps you know of a non-member or even someone in the news who has been helping with the fight for equality who would be perfect for the Flag Bearer or Betty Degeneres awards,” said Kay Heggestad, co-chair of the PFLAG Board Awards Committee. “Nominate them, now’s the time!”
These awards are a prime opportunity for you to take leadership in ensuring that people who have demonstrated outstanding contributions to PFLAG’s mission and goals are getting the recognition that they deserve. All nominations will be reviewed by a panel of PFLAG member leaders, and final recommendations for awards will be submitted to and approved by the PFLAG Board.
“This is a chance for you to help highlight people who can serve as inspirations to us all who otherwise might not get a platform to talk about their work,” said Bobbie Barry, committee co-chair. “And what better place to spotlight this work than at the PFLAG National Convention!”
Ready to get started with your nominations? All nominations are done online, through the ProposalSpace system. You will need to create a login to submit, but doing so is free.

The nomination period closes at 11:59pm on February 1, 2015. So submit a nominee now! Your nomination may just be the one that creates PFLAG’s next big award winner!