I had the wondrous experience of watching [the new movie Milk] with my son. It was very moving and instructive, especially in light of the lost Prop 8 battle.
In the film, Milk made the point that the gay community needed to "come out" and show themselves to the public in order to win the vote on Proposition 6 - at that time in the early 70s bigots were trying to fire all gay teachers in CA. The good citizens of California voted down Proposition 6 then, but failed to do so for Proposition 8, where our gay families were mostly kept hidden.
As I contemplate this, I think about Evan Wolfson's (www.freedomtomarry.org) advice about how to conduct the fight for our families' equal rights - he recommends that if we conduct our campaigns properly we will "lose forward", meaning that even in defeat if we educate the public about our families, in the long run we will win. I agree.
As our battle to undo Prop 8 moves forward, I hope that we keep Evan's principle in mind.
PFLAG Director, Southern Pacific Region, and National Board Member